After graduating from University, I quickly realized that I had my whole life at my finger tips and wanted to live authentically me, while doing something I loved. Because, what exactly is the alternative? I’m really not sure. My fear was waking up when I was 40 and looking back realizing I wasn’t living a life for me. I’m sure a lot of you can relate to this, maybe wondering what you want to do in life, or how to feel fulfilled with what ever it is that you are doing.
What exactly does “an authentic you” mean?
It’s something I’ve taken a lot of time to figure out & work on (and am still working on). But, to me, an authentic you is living your most unique life without a care for how others think you should be living it. An authentic you is waking up each day and making decisions for you & not changing your values/beliefs for anyone else in order to please them. It’s also letting go of what you, yourself, “think” you should be doing & embracing the real you.
I know, that’s a lot to take in. But, it’s a work in progress & trust me, it’s worth the journey.
Over the past year – I’ve learned so much about various ways to find my true life’s path, while living a fulfilled & authentic life. Sure, your definition of an authentic you might change 10 times over again, but keeping these things in mind will hopefully inspire you to be aware of what this all means to you.
1. Spend time with yourself, and A LOT of it.
I had to put this one right at the top of the list because it’s so so important. This has definitely been the key to continuing to find my authentic and fulfilled life’s path.
Spending time alone allows you to reflect and dig deeper into yourself to see what really makes you tick. If you are constantly around other people, where do you get the chance to sit to yourself and think, “what do I want to do with my life?”, Or ,“what makes me happy?”.
I can’t even begin to tell you how many hours I’ve spent to myself just creating vision boards, writing down lists of things I want in life or where I want to take things. However you might want to communicate this to yourself, it will look different to you. But the point here is to spend time with yourself to reflect & see where your mind takes you.
You will be shocked at how much you can learn about yourself.
2. Surround yourself with inspiring & motivating people.
We all have those people in our lives, whether friends or family, who just love talking about other people, their constant drama or the shitty parts about their lives. Don’t get me wrong, we all need to vent once and a while. But the constant downers need to go, or at least be more limited parts of your daily life. You have to start putting your happiness & mindset before the people you allow into your life. This isn’t selfish, this is having respect for your own well-being and happiness.
Go and find people who want to talk about goals, motivation & being inspired. Their energy will literally leave you feeling like you can conquer the world.
If you don’t have these people in your life yet, start listening to podcasts every day, or, read a book authored by someone who you really relate & look up to. I promise after a while of feeding your mind with these kinds of people, you will start to feel inspired to get out there and just do you. Because hey, if other people can do it, so can you. But you have to start believing it for yourself.
3. Try something completely new on a regular basis.
Change & getting outside of your comfort zone is also such a key factor to figuring yourself out and what kinds of things you are really interested in. You aren’t going to find these kinds of things while doing the same thing everyday, leaving you feeling like, “blah, been there, done that, I’ll see you tomorrow for the same thing”. Try a new class or activity, meet new people, get a little bit uncomfortable.
Whatever it might be that you end up doing, putting yourself out there to try new things will allow you to learn something about yourself you really never knew. Who knows, you just might find your new passion/hobby or even meet some of those really inspirational and motivational people into your life.
4. Visit new places – this doesn’t have to be expensive or mean having to fly across the world- it could be somewhere right next to you that you’ve never seen.
Seeing new places really puts your life into perspective, allowing you to embrace something totally different. This year, I had the amazing opportunities to travel to Los Angeles for the first time and New York City for fashion week. Being there in the hustle and bustle of a brand new city gave me a new wave of motivation unlike any other.
It allows you to realize that there are so many unique people and places doing different things each and every day! This really does give you a new found look into what makes you who you are & what makes you feel fulfilled once you get back into the comfort of your own home.
5. Have a side hustle / hobby.
When I first started my blog and Instagram as a hobby to post fashion content, I definitely had no clue it would lead to being my full-time job.
But, if I hadn’t of had that as a side hustle and hobby at one point, I would’ve never been sitting here today feeling super passionate & living out a fulfilling life through my work.
What is that on thing you’ve always wanted to do? If there was no judgement or fear, what would you want to do right now?
Take some time to think about those questions and find a way to start adding it into your life each week. That side hustle or hobby could just turn into your new career one day…